Modification of alimony/spousal support

Your divorce is over.  You receive an award of spousal support (or you are ordered to pay).  You begin your post-divorce life.  Then, it happens... the summons on your door.... your former spouse is seeking a reduction or termination of spousal support (or your former spouse is seeking an increase).   Suddenly, you have to deal with the past colliding with your present and impacting your future.  Understanding based on the documents of your divorce whether a modification can even be sought is also important. Modifications, if allowed, then require two findings:  (1) a material change of circumstances that (2) warrant an increase or decrease in support.  Understanding what documents and evidence is needed that relate to these two prongs is essential to putting together a strong modification case (or opposition thereto).   There are financial issues, health issues, relationship issues that may need to be considered.  Be sure you are taking proactive steps to have all the information so your situation can be evaluated and your future can be protected as much as possible. 

Holiday stress and separation

Stress during the holidays exist for many families whether intact or not.  For separated spouses and families that stress can be greatly intensified.  So, be sure you prepare in advance.  Make sure you have your support system in full force and get any appointments with professionals scheduled in advance.  Choose your battles with your ex-spouse and/or children wisely.    Plan your own budget for holiday spending and figure out how to add your own touches to this season.  Take time for yourself.  Pamper yourself.  Remember that although this season may be different from prior ones, you will be ok.

Understand your social security in a divorce

As the divorce rate of older couples increases, the impact of Social Security laws is important for each spouse to understand.  These benefits may affect spousal support and other issues in a divorce.  Having a good knowledge of your benefits and/or your spouse's benefits can be helpful in negotiations; and this knowledge may need to be shared with the Court if matters are litigated.   The Social Security's website is a wealth of information to help. http://www.ssa.gov/retire2/divspouse.htm  is a good place to start; and you can follow links from there.